Have you ever been told, “ You need to study/exercise/ clean your room,” only to respond, “ But I don’t feel like it!”?

This is a passive thinking yet not active. It’s a mere absence of feeling is all it takes to stop them from doing what they should do. Kick away this habit; it’s a sense of laziness. Being lazy won’t get you anywhere.

Another story – Sandra made the forty-five minute drive to the doctor’s office, only to be told by a nurse, “ Oh, I’m sorry, but it is our policy not to treat minors unaccompanied by a parent.”

Sandra explained that she had called earlier, specifically noting that she was bring her brother in as she had often done, due to her parents’ work and travel schedules.

The nurse stood firm. No parent, no treatment.

Sandra could have really let the nurse have it; she had added this errand to an already jam-packed day. Her brother was hurting and needed help, and it looked like she would be driving ninety minutes round-trip, all for nothing. The whole endeavor seemed like a colossal, frustrating waste of time.

But Sandra remained calm and loving. She called her dad, who was visiting his mother at the time. He said that he would come over and take care of the situation. Earlier that day, he had felt led to stop by our office to pick up some of my books and tapes even though he had no idea what he was going to do with them.

He arrived at the medical office and the women who helped him with Daniel’s paperwork asked if he was a minister-and if he was Joyce Meyer’s husband. He told her yes, and she said she had seen me on televisions. They talked awhile and Dave ended up giving her one of my books on emotional healing, in response to a need he sense in her. So, two people’s needs were met that day: Daniel’s physical ones and a medical professional’s emotional ones.

The main point is: What if Sandra had lost her patience with the nurse and started complaining and protesting? What kind of impression would she have left with the medical staff? Think about the woman at the registration desk. Sandra bore suffering and frustration with patience. (Story abstracted by Joyce Meyer – Battlefield of the Mind for Teens)

Don’t ever play Blame Games. What do I mean? Blame game is a game when we point fingers at others when we know we are in the fault but yet we try to avoid/escape the fact that we are not the one who did it.

This will affect you because once you get used to it, you will slowly start to adapt to this habit, and soon you realize you will feel regret and remorseful.

Do you ever get Jealous easily, feeling that you’re not worth of someone expectations and they get do better than you in other ways or their have better talents than you? Sure, you should do your best at school, in sports, in music or drama, of whatever your thing is. The problem comes when you can’t enjoy what you’re doing unless you win-unless you get first chair, first place, or first prize. If you become jealous or bitter every time you see someone who has something you don’t, your life is going to be miserable. They are torments from your heart.

Indeed, it’s a straightforward attitude but we must overcome it, let not jealousy control us. I spent many years envying anyone who looked better than I did, or who had talents I didn’t have, I secretly live in competition with others. It was so important to me that everything of my appeal must be better than others.

However, someone being better in you in this area could not compare with you in other areas E.g. Singing, Break dancing, Rapping. Everything is not lost if someone is better than you, you still have other talents that is deep within you. Everyone is flawed; no one is flawless in this world. We cannot just keep thinking about why we are not talented in the way we wanted, and feel hatred and start to despise yourself, as you feel unworthy. Being physically and mentally positive attitude is the mindset to freedom.

Think about it, perhaps your friend beat you in your exams and everyone start to applause loudly, your heart doesn’t feel right. You feel that he shouldn’t get the marks he deserved, and you cannot find peace. You can’t gain recognition from other people proving yourself you are worthy. However, being envy at other people is not going to help you, it affects your thinking. You wanted revenge; you wanted to win him, this and that. All is not lost my friend; being having a positive attitude is the way to keep up your effort to do things efficiently.

Don’t be afraid to lose to the other person, he/she may not have the other talents you have. Everyone in this world is talented, even the most unwise person. Take stock of your jealous thoughts and feelings. Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself – saying that “Yes, I may be jealous, but I’m not going to give up. I will continue to work harder even though he/she only puts in less effort but he/she can do well.” Yes sometimes other people might only imply less effort to get the job done, but the more effort we put in, we will learn new experiences, new abilities, and who knows – talents within us! It’s hard to keep a positive mindset, I know. I’ve been a victim before who’s so jealous of minor issues, but I kept thinking that even I’m being jealous, what’s the point? So lets stop thinking so negatively and stay positive at all times, even though it’s difficult. Keep trying and never give up!